Work

well - i think i've told you this before avi

but i'll remind you

"the person that cares the least has the most power in any situation" - (the fastest way to it is to live in the present moment, just this breath)

so - don't come from a place of desperation but "a place of strength"

you always have options even if you don't like them all

avi - i say make a list of needs

and then a list of wants

there is a minimum salary requirement that you need

anything on top of that is a want

Life

I have had a lot of death in my face this month
when looking at the preciousness of life it is a great reminder to live each moment to the fullest
worrying about the future is a waste of time
lamenting about the past is also
all we have is this present moment avi
make the most of it
whatever it is


breath avi
stop take a breath, observe and proceed
that is all you can do

Family

Well - my suggestion is that you find a way to have understanding for your family
and that you not cut them out of your life or have them cut you out of theirs
regardless of what your feelings are right now
this is your family
and they are important
also - I would recommend that anything that you do
you do it with compassion
and not anger
or resentment

Repeating Cycles

Seems like you keep repeating the same cycles.

Whatever helps you avi

Just as long as you don't count on it too much

Ok - good luck avi

Knowing my pattern

...Steph today noticed a pattern with me and said the following to help me:

You chase many things expecting to acheive a certain outcome

You chase many things expecting to acheive a certain outcome
and fall into dispair when they don't work out

it is something for you to watch

and see if it is something you can work with

so that not everything is the best or the worst

Constantly think of "Nothing is permanent"

and that things work out the way the are supposed to when you don't try to force it

By the way - this is a very normal human condition

we grasp and chase what we think will give us pleasure

and push away or avoid what we don't like

but always trying to control the outcome is based out of fear

and almost always leads to disappointment

Maybe you can start asking yourself what you are afraid of

and then just notice it

you don't have to change it

sometimes just being aware

"fear is like this"

can start to bring some relief

give it time

you may also start to notice that you can give some of your snap decisions some space

Victor frankl said "between the stimulus and the response, there is space"

when you notice that you are in fear you may start to make better decisions

it may give you the time to think about whether you are making a fear based decision

or if it is a sound decision

so that was Steph

...and my thought for every day would or rather should be:

NOTHING IS PERMANENT and CLINGING ALWAYS BRINGS DISATISFACTION.

just breathe avi

notice your breathing

on the in breath

notice i am breathing in

on the out breath

i am breathing out

do that for a little while

when the mind wanders off and you notice it

gently come back to the noticing of breathing

on the in breath i calm my mind

on the out breath i relax my body

Choices

We all make choices and live with the outcome

You'll need to weigh them and decide what to pursue

Here is the thing to consider when we have choices:

-Will a choice bring myself and others happiness?

- or Will it cause suffering?

-Am i making a choice that will make me grow?

-or Am i making a choice to avoid something else?

When a choice you make brings joy and excitement to your heart,you are doing the right thing!

What does "Failure" mean?

Well...this question has been going on my mind for sometime now but today it is really urging me to find the answer after seeing Indian Cricket team's huge loss at the World Cup.

Like always had a chat with Steph just a few minutes back and when I told her about this huge failure of Indian team...here's what she told me:

I'm sorry that you're disappointed

I don't really see this as a failure

"Not all endeavors mean a Win"

but there is always something that can be Learned or Gained

so how can that be a failure

failing is just flat out not trying

or not learning when things don't work out the way you expect

Now what's flat out?

Means not making any effort

How to tackle failure?

It's changing your attitude about what failure is

that's how you tackle it.

Feedback:

All we can expect of ourselves and each other is to perform at our best

that best can change from one day to the next

it is always changing

as long as we put the "right" amount of effort and intention in

the outcome doesn't matter

that much

if we are always tied to expecting that we can control the outcome

we will often be disappointed

"When you are able to move into a place that you don't emotionally live and die with each change or uncertainty

you will have more peace"

Learning to Cope

Everytime I have a chat with Steph (my guide/friend)I feel really good and positive in thoughts.Here what's she told me during last night's chat:

"What i have found over the years is that often times i have to not force the outcome

or be tied to it

and everything usually works out the way it's supposed to

and sometimes - it's not what i would have chosen

but i find a way to be at peace with it.

Please meet each moment fully

and meet it as a friend"

Also,I'm learning from my mistakes.I remember Steph telling me that:

"There is no great career for anyone without mistakes along the way

When you hit an obstacle - be honest about it

People appreciate that

Be honest too when you make a mistake"

I had made a big mistake last night which will be very serious but I've admitted my mistake and I'm willing to face the consequences.Infact,I'm very happy for having learnt from this mistake of mine at such an early stage of my life/career.

When I did share this mistake I've made with Steph...this is what she said:

"I think it is good that you have learned the mistake now and not later

I have seen very senior people blur the line between right action and doing what it takes to get what you want

You will be able to recover from this

I think that you have learned a very valuable lesson and that's a very good thing."

So proud to have such a wonderful person as my guide/friend.Thanks Steph.

There is another quote that I would like to share which really moved me:

"We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope." - Martin Luther King, Jr.

Encouraging and Soothing!

Pay attention to the things you love

And pay attention equally to the work you don't love

Start tracking what gives you energy and what doesn't

And that will help guide you

I have never paid attention to where my career is going

I just do good work and then good things happen

When I hit an obstacle - I'm honest about it

People appreciate that

Be honest too when you make a mistake

There is no great career for anyone without mistakes along the way

I ask for help and guidance when i need it


Karma:

It is the manifestation of energy - one way or the other

If you put the right effort in the right things happen

Doesn't mean that things turn out exactly the way you want

But they usually do turn out just right

Advice:

Just do what you have right in front of you

Don't worry about the future

One - worrying never solves anything

It just makes you feel bad

And two - the future isn't here

And for the stuff you have right in front of you

Do the very best job you can.

PS: These words said by my friend will always encourage me in whatever I do. Thank you Stephanie.