...Steph today noticed a pattern with me and said the following to help me:
You chase many things expecting to acheive a certain outcome
You chase many things expecting to acheive a certain outcome
and fall into dispair when they don't work out
it is something for you to watch
and see if it is something you can work with
so that not everything is the best or the worst
Constantly think of
"Nothing is permanent"and that things work out the way the are supposed to when you don't try to force it
By the way - this is a very normal human condition
we grasp and chase what we think will give us pleasure
and push away or avoid what we don't like
but always trying to control the outcome is based out of fear
and almost always leads to disappointment
Maybe you can start asking yourself what you are afraid of
and then just notice it
you don't have to change it
sometimes just being aware
"fear is like this"
can start to bring some relief
give it time
you may also start to notice that you can give some of your snap decisions some space
Victor frankl said "between the stimulus and the response, there is space"
when you notice that you are in fear you may start to make better decisions
it may give you the time to think about whether you are making a fear based decision
or if it is a sound decision
so that was Steph
...and my thought for every day would or rather should be:
NOTHING IS PERMANENT and CLINGING ALWAYS BRINGS DISATISFACTION.
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